There is no perfect personality that we can enact to. In my
case, I am beginning to realize that disengagement is socially and
psychologically unhealthy.
Have you ever gone to the point in your life where you lost
a lot of people in your life and you don’t want to try again? I read that we
need to relate. I mean that is a psychological need of man. If we are not able
to express ourselves, we will be clogged in a subjective reality that we
created by our own thoughts alone.
I don’t know about you but I found it dangerous. But to be
honest, I am doing that myself. When we live by our own thoughts, we will
interpret things according to how we see them. And the reality is, we are bound
to pursue our emotions by how we interpret the world. If we are hateful to a
person, everything he or she does is offensive. That’s why there will be a
loophole in our interpretation. More than being egoistic, or self-centered, we
need to get away from our thoughts. We need to consider other interpretations. By
letting our previous thinking be evaluated along the way, it will be viable by
willful change.
The most recent and important issue we need to address is
the claim that we lost people in our lives. By assuming that companion from key
people are the only significant and viable relationship we can have, we are
limiting life. We are going against science because every living thing will
die. If key people in your life die and they went out of your life, what will
you do? Will you isolate? Will you let life and its evil thereof get the best
out of you? Will you waste another day being depressed by remembering happy
memories that can’t be felt anymore? Worst yet, will you cease to exist because
everything has changed?
We need to question our claims. We need to step back from
our subjective realities and re-evaluate if it is bringing any good in our
lives. Change will intentionally be achieved only by genuinely realizing that
we are heading to destruction.
And the first counter argument of us being left alone is we
are incorporated in a society where there are people interacting with us in
different levels. Most of these people are, by default, strangers. That’s why
we have to decide if this stranger will be given an opportunity to be known.
We then need to consider that this stranger has its own
strengths and weakness. It can either exceed or disappoint our expectation.
However, more than labeling someone and giving them treatment according to
their score based on our standards, we need to recreate meaning with them.
Because only by sharing meaning and by observing the same thought pattern can
we build relationship for we are relating.
Is it possible that we intentionally locked ourselves down
and claim to be a victim? Is it possible that we dragged ourselves down here,
in a mud of despair and being alone because we neglected to share?
The consequence of being an introvert is we do not share
thoughts as long as we have not calculated it yet. And it can result to false
assumptions about us.
I believe in social (re)constructionism. It means that we
can reconstruct ourselves. It means that we are not done yet. It means more the
desire to willfully impose our personality to others, we can also work on
weaknesses by coping up. Again, we are responsible for our thoughts and actions.
This is real life. It’s time to genuine welcome and allow happiness by sharing
our lives.
